Sometimes, personal trauma — recovering from a serious illness, losing a close friend, getting laid off, or struggling through a pandemic — can make you question your assumptions and push you to change the path you’re on. But positive events can lead to post-traumatic growth, too: landing a new job, having a new baby, or falling in love. And, according to research, the jolts we feel from these positive disruptive events can energize us, boost our self-esteem, deepen our relationship with others, and enhance the meaning of our lives.
You Need a Personal Highlight Reel
Collect positive feedback and return to it when you need a boost.
October 14, 2020
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Summary.
Sometimes, personal trauma can make you question your assumptions and push you to change the path you’re on. But according to research, the jolts we feel from these positive disruptive events can energize us, boost our self-esteem, deepen our relationship with others, and enhance the meaning of our lives. You can create this feeling by asking people to share their memories of times you’ve been the best version of yourself. You end up with a personal highlight reel — a set of memories of you at your very best — that will help you maximize and build upon the unique strengths that make you exceptional.